Who is this woman?

Have you ever run into someone who impresses the socks off of you? She speaks with such authority the innate response is, “Who is this woman?”

Has it ever occurred to you that people might think that of YOU?

Who are you?

A friend sent me this thought-provoking sermon by a young preacher who really knows who she is. How can I tell? She is completely unapologetic about what she knows to be true. Makes me think of another young woman who wrote a book called Girl, Stop Apologizing. She came from a podunk town and developed a very successful company with a high school diploma and “the free information I learned on the Internet.” Her rising fame begs the question, “Who are you?” But if you follow Rachel Hollis, you know she’s the real deal.

I suspect from time to time, you find courage rising in your in such a way that people look at you and say, “Who is this woman?” Or better yet, “Damn! That girl knows what she’s talking about.”

Have you ever wondered why sometimes you are THAT woman and sometimes you’re hiding under a table cloth? (If that’s not you, then best not read further.) I think of these things when I introduce myself at parties and people ask what I do. I wish people ask who I am instead. I think I’m going to change my response. I’m going to start saying, “Hi, I’m Donna. I’m a unicorn.“

That’s really how I feel. Especially as a coach, so many people ask, “what sport do you coach?“ And other people say, “Are you a life coach?“ People in the leadership development business say with a condescending tone as if this disqualifies me from the human race, “Oh, you’re a life coach.“ I’m all of that and none of that. I’d rather be a unicorn. Anyone with me here?

You and I are not alone. Carly Fiorina writes in her new book, Find Your Way: Unleash Your Power and Highest Potential, about the moment she discovered that “what poet Mary Oliver calls my one wild and precious life” didn’t feel wild or precious, just “dreadful and disappointing.” She was living a life based on her parents’ expectations and when she quit law school, they were dreadfully disappointed but she was free. When Craig Groeschel asks her to tell this story on his podcast, Carly is on the other side of complexity, she knows the other side of that story.

Now nobody asks, “Who is this woman?” about Carly Fiorina. She went on to craft a very successful career and run for president. My question to you is, what does this story stir in you? When someone asks who you are, do you introduce yourself as your Myers-Briggs type? By your DISC behavior style? Do you introduce yourself by your job title, or list how many kids you have?

Who are YOU?

If you’re feeling like I’m feeling, you don’t like to be categorized. It’s OK to feel that way because you are uniquely made for a purpose. Your purpose is more than your job title, your salary level or the number of kids you have. Who YOU are is bigger than mom, wife, or CEO.

Tell me what’s going on in your head. Does this story make you think of the day when you planned to run for president? Does this remind you of the goal you had in college to be a CEO? If this question is causing you mental anguish because your answer to the question is different from what you dreamed it would be, you’re not alone.

I have good news. You know I’m all about strategies. In my coaching and workshops with women the top three themes have been:

I’m tired,

I am betrayed at work, and

The urgent always sabotages the important.

I have a solution.

General knowledge on success strategy names four factors for designing success:

  1. A clear and specific purpose
  2. A plan to work toward that purpose
  3. A mind set against negative influence
  4. An alliance with others in agreement with that purpose

This really works. That’s why I created something extraordinary for women of distinction to disconnect with life and get really clear on a purpose and design a strategy in the company of an alliance of women who will elevate one another.

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